Hot Diggity Duggars: The Wedding.

Some of this season's episodes have felt like product placement infomercials. Thankfully, not the wedding episode. In fact, the wedding was sweet–in a corny-Duggar kind of way. Especially the part where Josh busts out into a full-vibrato love song at the end of the ceremony. That was so cheesy and also so…guileless.

The entire family is so simple and sincere that sometimes it's hard to believe that good, honest people like the Duggars really exist. It's a remarkable act of courage for them to put their very non-mainstream lifestyle on display. It also provides a visible example to younger families that living differently in a secularized culture is possible–and can be done successfully. That's encouraging for those of us who are raising large families.

I particularly enjoyed seeing the entire church community rally around the young couple. It was great to see the generosity from Anna's church family. It was clear that this church valued the sanctity of marriage and offered it's unflinching support. No-one said, "oh, they're too young!" Everyone seemed to accept and support the validity of their commitment to each other.

That said, I did feel like some of the "no kissing until the wedding day!" was too scripted. For those of us who come from conservative backgrounds, practicing chaste behavior is nothing new. But I suppose the no-kissing issue sparked audience interest, so the producers hyped it up.

I was a little confused by the marriage vows which included a commitment to "allow the Lord to decide our family size." It appears Josh & Anna will be following in their parents' footsteps. Which is great–but do all these folks publicly announce their intention never to space their children? And why?

Lastly, my favorite part of the show was when the flower girls were wheeled down the aisle in a decorated wagon. That was such a cute idea!

I guess it's official. I'm hooked on the Duggars. Is anyone else?

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  • Patricia Bertsch

    I have to say, I dig the Duggars.

  • http://bought-with-a-price.blogspot.com sarah

    I am a fan, for sure. The mom seems like a very sweet, balanced Christian woman. Love it!

  • http://www.heidijowhatdoyouknow.blogspot.com Heidi Jo

    if i remember correctly, which i may not…something was said in our wedding ceremony to the effect of, “willingly accept the gift of children into this union”…again, not exact wording, but close.

    i missed it. but i am sure that it was interesting!

  • Laura

    I was kinda wondering that too about the vows, but then one of the Duggar girls said something about them wanting that in their vows so it must have been an add-in not a standard vow.

  • http://www.weekendkindness.net/ MInTheGap

    The problem with the Duggar’s is that they’re on Wednesday night– which is already a full night with Bible Study, etc. We’ve caught some, but– like you said– sometimes they’re all about product placement!

  • http://restoringtheyears.blogspot.com Grafted Branch@Restoring the Years

    I missed it! Ugh.

    I was going to say that whenever people feel compelled to announce their very spiritual convictions to the greater audience, it smacks of legalism–or at very least a soft spot that may go that way in the future.

    However, these were their wedding vows, and audience or not, I think it’s good to include such life-altering agreements in the spoken marriage covenant.

    That said, I also think there is no such thing as a pure quiverfull conviction. People who think there is don’t have much of an imagination. Are couples really going to charge up that hill for conviction’s sake when they can be assured that to do so will cause severe damage or death? (i.e., diabetes, miscarriage, heart problems, etc.) I like that so many are willing to receive many blessings, but can’t take folks seriously when the position turns dogmatic.

  • http://www.seekingfaithfulnessblog.com Holly

    I agree with Grafted Branch…I thought the same thing. I think it is a wonderful thing to lay your fertility before the Lord, and to say, “Your will be done.” But to unequivocally say, “We vow to have as many children as the Lord sends” doesn’t take into account potential health issues or heartaches. (And, hello…I’m saying this as a woman who has 8 kids and wonders if the Lord has more in store for her…)

  • http://www.elizabethesther.com Elizabeth Esther

    You bring up an excellent point. I cringe whenever I see any Christian parade their convictions out in public. The truth is, even Christians make decisions based on life circumstances. Some of them simply may not be able to adhere to a strict QF interpretation for medical & physical reasons. Only God knows the size of our quivers. :) We do well to let Him take care of others’ quivers and just mind our own. Thanks, GB.

  • Beth

    Love the blog Elizabeth! Also I generally love the Duggars too but was a little bothered last night when the 4 oldest girls went to Fla. to help with wedding plans and things fell apart back home. The girls had to get back in fairly short order to help their parents with the little ones.
    I definitely think kids should help out around the house and do chores, but seeing that the Duggar parents are clearly so reliant on them was disturbing to me. If you want a large family, that’s OK with me but the job of raising them should fall most heavily on the parents, not the oldest girls. What’s going to happen when those girls want to start getting married too? I hope they are allowed to live their lives and not be expected to raise their siblings all their lives. That’s not fair.

  • http://bellwhistlemoon.blogspot.com/ mary bailey

    Interesting that you should bring this up. I finally got cable TV yesterday and I am looking forward to watching the Duggars show tonight!

  • Kara

    Elizabeth, I love your blog. Your family is beautiful. I watched the Duggar wedding and thought it was sweet. I was embarrassed with Jim Bob giving Josh “the talk” the night before the wedding. The video cracked me up. My concern for Josh and Anna is the amount of time they spent getting to know each other before marriage. They never had any unchaperoned time together. Marriage is a partnership and needs to be taken very seriously. I got the impression these kids were more concerned with the sexual aspect, than the lifelong partnership. I’m sure it will all work out for them. They do not consider other options, so they will stay together regardless of happiness. I love the Duggar family and I’m proud that they are raising kind, god-loving children. We all could learn a few lessons from them.

  • http://www.simplethingsmeansomuch.blogspot.com jen decker

    yup…i am an addict too. love the show even if it is a little corney sometimes…