Binding up the bwoken hearted

IMG_4492It was a grisly crime scene. Clumps of butchered hair, amputated limbs and the weapon: a pair of kindergarten scissors, all stuffed under my son's bed.

It was a game that had seemed funny at first. My son and a neighbor boy were tossing the twins' favorite doll around. Somehow, in the ensuing hilarity–a pair of scissors seemed like a good idea.

And the silly haircut was a riot. But it didn't stop there. A moment later, it wasn't so funny anymore.

That's when the guilt set in. They tried to hide it.

But they couldn't hide their ashamed faces. Especially when Mama got down on hands and knees and peered under the bed.

The whole wretched story came tumbling out. There were tears and wringing of hands. Mama kept her cool (just barely).

The culprits were marched downstairs. The neighbor boy was sent home. And the trembling son wept into his hands.

Mama washed dishes until she felt herself cool down. Best not to talk in the heat of battle. Those dishes never sparkled so well.

"Mommy…are you…are you disappointed with me?" he asks, tugging at my shirt.

I wipe my hands on the towel and kneel in front of him.

"I'm disappointed that you didn't make the right choice," I say. "That's your baby sisters' favorite doll."

He hangs his head. Utter remorse. "I know," he sobs. "I'm so sorry."

"Why did you do it?" I ask, as calmly and quietly as I can.

He shrugs. "I don't know! I knew it was wrong! I don't know why I did it!"

I draw him to me and hug him close. He whispers the rest of the story in my ear and that's when I discover why he did it. He didn't want to make his beloved friend mad by saying no. I nod. I understand this.

It's a lesson I had to learn early, too: the courage to do the right thing even when it's not popular.

We exchange some quiet words. Apologies are spoken and amends are made.

And then we try to explain it to the twins.

"Baby is broken," I say. "Baby has owies."

Jasiel stares for a moment and then reaches for baby, holds her tight. "Ohhhhh, baby! Ohhhh, bwoken baby!"

IMG_0417 From that day on, Bwoken Baby is Jasiel's special treasure.

Bwoken Baby gets long walks in the stroller all bundled up in blankies because: "She's code! She's code!"

Bwoken Baby gets rocked in Mama's rocking chair. Bwoken Baby listens to Jasiel "read" Cat Inna Hat.

Every time I watch Jasiel coo and fuss over that hopelessly mangled baby doll, I feel a strange sort of heart ache.

My 2 year old is just learning to speak. Yet somehow, she teaches us what unconditional love looks like.

And in that love, my son understands he is forgiven.

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  • http://www.bettybeguiles.com Hallie

    This may be my very favorite thing that you have written here on your blog. I just loved it. And that picture of Jasiel absolutely melts my heart! What a cutie-pie sweet pea!

  • Judith

    This brought me to tears … what a heart your little Jasiel has. And your guilt-stricken son as well.
    What a blessing to be a mother, no?

  • Joanie

    Precious kids! I love this story! Tears. Laughter. Cleansing sigh.

  • http://www.livinginthemystery.blogspot.com/ Michelle

    What a beautiful metaphor. Beautiful.

  • http://livelifeartfully.blogspot.com Jenn

    Beautiful post.

  • http://sue-livingandlearning.blogspot.com/ Sue

    Oh, that made me cry, too! Beautiful.

  • ldh

    Very lovely. The right thing for my Monday morning.

  • http://ordinarysplendor.blogspot.com/ amy

    This brought tears to my eyes. I realized that I’m the often the broken one and can receive that unconditional love from my own tenderhearted babies but I push them away, trying to be the strong mother. But their hearts are made for love too. Thank you!

  • http://ifmeadowsspeak.blogspot.com/ Tammy@If Meadows Speak….

    Wow, how powerful a message can be exhibited in such a tiny body!

  • http://www.passionateperseverance.blogspot.com Mary

    stunningly powerful! thank you for sharing…

  • http://jens_page.blogspot.com Jen @ The Short Years

    Nothing like a tear-jerker first thing in the morning…wonderfully written post.

  • Christina Anderson

    I can see God – looking upon us – his “broken” children and scooping us up, holding us close, and taking us on long walks…..humbling.

  • http://thebookbeast.blogspot.com SaraJ

    I read this aloud to my 8yo and 7yo. I mostly wanted them to think about the “not wanting to make my friend mad” part (we’ve had to deal with this before). But the message of forgiveness and love was what came through. Both kids were very touched, as was I.

    – SaraJ

  • http://thisisblondie.blogspot.com/ Tanya

    Beautiful post.

  • Carolyne

    What a beautiful Mama you are to your babes.
    I know you understand the message you imparted to your children that day. Because you took the time to deal with something that had been hidden……they will not forget the Eternal message that God is writing on their hearts.
    Blessings,

  • stephanie shurance

    This story made me laugh and cry, and it reminded me of the tenderness our heavenly Father uses to cover us his ” bwoken babies” —

  • http://semicrunchymama.wordpress.com Crystal @ Semi-Crunchy Mama

    This was stunningly beautiful.

  • Lynn

    Thanks for sharing. I needed to hear that tonight.

  • http://www.oldhousekitchen.blogspot.com Carmen

    Aw…my heartstrings are tugged. Beautiful.

  • Margaret

    Wow. Beautiful. So beautiful!

  • http://profile.typepad.com/lovefromgirlwordpresscom Lovefromgirl.wordpress.com

    I was like Jasiel about my “bwoken baby” toys. Did it hurt, loving the broken? Sure, but I never regretted the hurts. There were always joys in that love as well.

    You’re an awesome mama. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.

  • http://table4five.net Elizabeth@Table4Five

    Oh, that is just darling! I have two boys and a girl, and I’m always astonished at how much more tender and nurturing my girl is with her toys. Even as toddlers, the boys never wrapped their action figures in blankies because they were “code” LOL

  • http://jasminlovescoffee.blogspot.com Jasmin

    I loved this post…one of my favorites. What a beautiful message.

  • http://msmichalek.wordpress.com Shelby Michalek

    Just found your blog and reading through posts. The end made me cry. What a sweet forgiving little girl.