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Monthly Archives: July 2010
Riding the Reflectors
I can't sleep while my husband is driving because I'm totally convinced that my co-piloting skills have single-handedly saved us from at least 3,562 life-threatening accidents. Yeah, I keep count. "How do you think I've stayed alive all these years … Continue reading
Posted in Childbearing, Her Royal Mommy-Ness, Life in The OC, Travel
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Sewing myself sane
I bought the easiest pattern in the store, the one tacked up on a display rack with the words Sewing For Complete Idiots And/Or Women With Rabid ADD. That's how I knew it was for me. Things got even better … Continue reading
Posted in ADD, Depression, Her Royal Mommy-Ness, Twins!!
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I Am Free
Dear Elizabeth in 2000, I know that right now it's hard to believe you'll ever be happy. It's been a tough summer for you. You're 23 and your whole life should stretch out before you with hope. But instead, you … Continue reading
Why I go to Confession
I don't know how it works exactly, but something about opening my mouth and admitting what I've done wrong is a crucial step toward healing and reconciliation. It helps me see myself clearly. In this way, Confession isn't something I … Continue reading
Posted in Liturgy & Sacrament
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Life as a fundie pastor’s kid
Despite the loud claims that our fundamentalist church didn't have a centralized authority structure like the "worldly churches," there was definitely a highly specified hierarchy. It was kinda like the Jacob's ladder to holiness. The closer you were to the … Continue reading
The Bible: like Google maps with a side of Motrin
A scary thing happened when I left the abusive fundamentalist church of my childhood: I couldn't open my Bible and read the words without hearing my grandfather's voice, his exact intonation and inflection. Certain passages were so fully saturated with … Continue reading
Boobs are the enemy
The economy being what it is, I'm a sucker for a discount. So when our local Montessori school agreed to raise my twins at a bargain price, I took the deal. Starting in a week, my twins will be in full-time … Continue reading
Tears for “Quivering Daughters”
I tried several times to talk about Hillary McFarland's book without weeping. Could.Not.Do.It. I thought about editing out my tears, make this a nice, pretty little video. But you know what? I didn't. I didn't because what is happening inside … Continue reading
Posted in Book Reviews, RecoveringFundamentalist, Religion
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We Will Tell You How To Feel (or how I discovered my emotions after an abusive church experience)
A few weeks ago, I came across my journal from 7 years ago. We were just coming out of our abusive church. Our family had been blown apart, scattered, estranged. I was lonely and terribly unsure of myself. I had … Continue reading
Posted in RecoveringFundamentalist, Religion
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