Structures and systems for living a free life

I’m fascinated by systems. When I wrote about my daily schedule, someone commented that I have a lot of self-discipline. Here’s the thing: I wasn’t born this way. As a free-spirited ENFP with ADD, I naturally tend to skitter off into tangents, daydreams, dithering, procrastinating. My weak points are organization, goal setting and staying focused long enough to complete necessary tasks.

Yes, I’m a moderately talented writer but in high school I realized that my “flashes of brilliance” were not enough to accomplish my dreams of becoming a published author. I actually needed organizational systems and structures (as much as I hated them!) to help me. Otherwise, my dreams would remain wishes.

I used to wish I was one of those elite writers who could churn out awesome manuscripts while drunk, or in a coffee shop surrounded by people or while under intense stress, or while traveling. But I’m not one of those writers. I’m me. I need my sleep. I need my routine.

My systems save me. My systems free me.

My systems enhance creativity. Take a sonnet, for example. Sonnets have structure: meter, rhyme scheme, sequences. Sonnets have tight structures and yet, some of the most transcendent poems are sonnets. The structure is the setting upon which the beautiful diamond shines.

Once I started loving structures, I began seeing everything as a potential system. For example, shoes. Shoes need a system. Especially in a big family like mine, shoes can easily overwhelm space and become unmanageable. Our shoes needed a system.

Now, here’s the trick (especially for folks with ADD!): don’t over-complicate your system! It doesn’t have to be Pinterest pretty. When it comes to systems, I always choose function over aesthetics. I’m not opposed to aesthetics, per se. Beauty matters. But I’m more concerned about ease and functionality.

Hence, our family shoe closet (it’s not even that tidy but it still totally works!):

This shoe closet used to be a coat closet. My husband retrofitted it with shelves. Little kids’ shoes are near the bottom, adult shoes on top. It’s not exactly pretty, but it solves the problem of a shoe pileup near the front door. Also, if everyone keeps their daily, school shoes in one spot, getting out the door each morning is simplified.

SHOE SYSTEM!

Here’s one more example from my life. Each morning I shower, do my hair and makeup. But if everything isn’t easily accessible, I’ll forget something like flossing or mascara (thank you, ADD). So, I’ve created a little countertop solution that–once again–is not PRETTY–but it’s functional and systematizes my morning routine.

I keep a few things in the medicine cabinet–mainly because if it’s TOO crowded in my toiletry tray, my ADD brain can’t sort it. The things I keep in the medicine cabinet stay in the EXACT SAME SPOT so I always know where they are.

I also have systems for exercise, mail management, books, lunch pails, carpool routes, bedtimes, laundry collection. I have systems for writing. I have systems for blogging. After I’m done editing this book? I’ll tell you all about my system for book writing!

The point is, if I–as a scatterbrained ENFP–can organize and systematize my life, ANYONE can! Start small. Start tiny. Systematize ONE thing. Maybe just make your bed. Maybe just put on your workout clothes (without even working out!). Just one thing. One tiny step.

You CAN achieve your dreams!

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  • http://twitter.com/khouriajen jen

    I’m an INFJ and I find that systems are essential to my life, especially with a special needs child. His classmates’ parents were shocked to find out that *gasp* we can go from zero to ready for school in about 20 minutes. (He is my only child so I have an easier time in that way.) My secret is that his lunch is simple (tortilla roll-up, juice, and crackers) and I have an alarm clock set for the exact moment we need to get ready for school. Clothes are ready the night before and anything I need to sign is done the night before as well.

  • Marie

    Thank-you for sharing, Elizabeth. I do not have a diagnosis but suspect that I do have ADD. I agree about needing systems, but often my mind gets stressed trying to decide upon them (which sounds crazy for how uncomplicated some decisions should be). I’ve had to learn to say to myself–making a choice and going with it is more important at times than WHAT the choice is.

    P.S.–How is Jude?

  • Lucie

    As a writer, I’m looking forward to hearing about your book-writing system. :-)

  • Patricia

    This makes TONS of sense. I teach classes to parents (discipline, child development, etc.), and we talk about how arranging the environment can really help with guiding and teaching the kids in their lives–structure, routine, predictability…one less thing to have to think about. Love this post!
    And why isn’t the wicker tray on your counter PRETTY? :) (I think it is…)

  • Kreine

    Aaaaand my Dressing Your Truth Type 1, ENFP self just had an internal tantrum, asking, “But whhyyyy do I need to be organized?!?”
    :-P

  • Mistie Holler

    I’m impossibly, terribly messy. Here’s my tidying/cleaning system:
    Look around at everything that needs to be done.
    Wonder how to even begin addressing such a mess.
    Pep talk myself: ‘You can do this, c’mon, you know you can’ etc.
    pick up a pile of clothes.
    Wonder what to do with it.
    Put it down somewhere else, promising myself I’ll deal with it later.
    Notice a book on the floor that must have been hiding under the clothes.
    Realise I never finished it.
    Sit down and read for a hour.
    Get up. Look around at everything that needs to be done.
    Repeat ad infinitum.
    I need structure and discipline in my life so badly, so thanks for the encouragement! Genuinely inspirational.