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Category Archives: Love/Sex Advice
Dear Christians, Victoria’s Secret is NOT the problem
This message being brought to you by hysterical Christian parents: Victoria’s Secret! Is targeting teenagers! We Are Outraged! Boycott All The Thongs! This message being brought to you by Been There-Done That: I’ll start boycotting Victoria’s secret just as soon … Continue reading
Posted in Faith, Love/Sex Advice, Societal Commentary
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The day I learned I was a hipster/progressive/”current feminist” advocating ‘commitment-free’ sex for all!
And here I thought I was just Catholic (but if I snap out of my “current” feminism anytime soon, I’ll be sure to let you know). In the meantime, allow me to give you a brief summary of the pushback … Continue reading
Posted in Love/Sex Advice, Sex & Faith, Spiritual Abuse
60 Comments
Love is a…choice?
A few months after we were married, church leadership “strongly encouraged” us to attend a marriage workshop. Frankly, attendance wasn’t optional. To maintain our good standing in church, we were more or less required to attend these workshops. And participate … Continue reading
Purity Culture Fallout: “I wanted to die because I had ruined ‘God’s plan for my life’”
This weekend I read through your stories about the harmful effects of purity culture. I found myself nodding, laughing and weeping. For many years I felt very alone in my struggle with sexuality and the purity culture. That has all … Continue reading
Posted in Love/Sex Advice, Sex & Faith, Spiritual Abuse
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Virginity: New & Improved!
Yes, I was a virgin on my wedding day. Then again, I was only 20. Yes, remaining a virgin until my wedding day saved me from some romantic heartbreak. Then again, I’ve had other heartbreaks. Yes, chastity is special. Then … Continue reading
Giving our men their balls back? How old-school misogyny is still thriving among Christians.
Old-school misogyny is alive and well. Except now it’s dressed in hip clothing. It probably blogs. It probably gets its ideas from books rife with harmful gender stereotypes. And it probably uses edgy language like “giving our men their balls … Continue reading
A Husband’s Guide To Getting Laid (by his wife, OF COURSE! sheesh, what kind of blog do you think this IS?!)
While I’m doing my best to be all sparkly and network-y at the blog conference, I’ve asked KC of “Some Wise Guy” to guest post for me. KC is a legit dude and makes me laugh. I likes his straight-up, … Continue reading
Posted in Love/Sex Advice
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How to be a good listener
It’s rare to find good listeners–especially among extroverts. This is why most of my closest friends are introverts. Not only do I appreciate their natural listening abilities, but I enjoy the challenge of coaxing them out of their shells. Introverts … Continue reading
Posted in ENFP, Love/Sex Advice, Writing
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“True Tolerance:” how Focus on the Family is missing the point
Focus on the Family is missing the point. Here’s why: If the TRUE “heart-cry” of Focus on the Family is protecting the most vulnerable of our society, then marginalizing a minority group is pretty much the exact opposite of that. … Continue reading
Posted in Love/Sex Advice, Societal Commentary
61 Comments
Elizabeth Smart & the life-threatening danger of shame-based purity culture
*trigger warning: rape, victim blaming* I read an interesting line in the New Yorker yesterday, describing an important characteristic about one of the kidnapped girls who was recently rescued in Cleveland: …she had to never forget who she was, and … Continue reading →