Category Archives: Marriage

Divorce after twins

There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning. –Thornton Wilder  Looking back, I can see how blindly optimistic I was–as if willpower alone could … Continue reading

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Love is a…choice?

A few months after we were married, church leadership “strongly encouraged” us to attend a marriage workshop. Frankly, attendance wasn’t optional. To maintain our good standing in church, we were more or less required to attend these workshops. And participate … Continue reading

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Giving our men their balls back? How old-school misogyny is still thriving among Christians.

Old-school misogyny is alive and well. Except now it’s dressed in hip clothing. It probably blogs. It probably gets its ideas from books rife with harmful gender stereotypes. And it probably uses edgy language like “giving our men their balls … Continue reading

Posted in Humor, Love/Sex Advice, Marriage, RecoveringEvangelicalsAnonymous, Religion | 88 Comments

Living in the light

I used to think divorce was the worst thing that could happen to me. Now I know that there are worse things: like living a lie, like thinking it’s all my fault for not fixing it, like trying to pretend … Continue reading

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Things I’m Learning in Marriage Counseling

Human beings need rest. One of the first questions our therapist asked was: when was the last time you both rested? R-e-s-t-e-d? Ba ha ha. Who has time for that? We have five kids. We’ll rest when we die. Rest. … Continue reading

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