Category Archives: RecoveringEvangelicalsAnonymous

The New Misogyny: “bro-culture” pastors, sexist Christian comedians and abuse apologetics disguised as female empowerment

When I was growing up, the Christian misogynist wore a suit and tie, poured on enough cologne to slay an elephant and toted a Bible the size of an encyclopedia. This pastor boomed Biblical pronouncements from the pulpit and quoted … Continue reading

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Don’t engage the crazy

Here are some thoughts on the futility of “helping” people who are still heavily invested in their harmful belief systems or who believe they are on a mission from God Himself.

Posted in Cults, My Videos, RecoveringEvangelicalsAnonymous, RecoveringFundamentalist, Religion | 3 Comments

A ring by spring or else you #FAIL godly womanhood!

Melanie Springer Mock is a professor of English at George Fox University in Oregon. When I wrote about evangelicals’ hypocritical outcry against Victoria’s Secret, Melanie reached out to say she’d seen the fallout of purity culture among her own female … Continue reading

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Precious and Free

I took the children to a park we haven’t been to in a long time. When they were little, we went almost every day. The park looks different now: old, weathered, worn-out. Two of the slides had been torn out, the … Continue reading

Posted in Cults, RecoveringEvangelicalsAnonymous, RecoveringFundamentalist, Spiritual Abuse, This Is My Story. | 14 Comments

Belts and spatulas: a story of spanking, fear, failure and redemption

I had the pleasure of “meeting” Josh Barkey online awhile ago and was struck by his gentle spirit, vulnerable honesty and commitment to art. He has written a book called “Immortality Stories” and I wanted to honor the journey he … Continue reading

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I was spanked as a child and I turned out ok. Didn’t I?

It’s late on a night during Holy Week. I’m alone and I’m trembling because I have seen into my heart of darkness and it’s brought everything back…. I was spanked and spanked and spanked and I turned out OK, didn’t … Continue reading

Posted in Michael & Debi Pearl, RecoveringEvangelicalsAnonymous, RecoveringFundamentalist, Spiritual Abuse | 100 Comments

How to recognize unhealthy personal boundaries in yourself and others

As I’ve been reading (and re-reading) Take Back Your Life, I’ve found myself having moments of epiphany and moments of embarrassment. The moments of epiphany happen when I deconstruct a harmful system and suddenly understand how it works. The moments … Continue reading

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I Kissed My Humanity Goodbye: how the evangelical purity culture dehumanizes women

When I look at this picture of myself on my wedding day, I don’t see a happy bride. I see a frightened little girl who was under incredible pressure from her family’s ministry. Not only was I expected to be … Continue reading

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Love & Respect: is the book misogynistic? {a closer look at Introduction & Chapter 1}

Several commenters suggested that since I haven’t read Love & Respect myself, I was basing my conclusions on an uninformed opinion. So, I went and bought the book. If I’m wrong about the book, I’m willing to admit that. I … Continue reading

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Giving our men their balls back? How old-school misogyny is still thriving among Christians.

Old-school misogyny is alive and well. Except now it’s dressed in hip clothing. It probably blogs. It probably gets its ideas from books rife with harmful gender stereotypes. And it probably uses edgy language like “giving our men their balls … Continue reading

Posted in Humor, Love/Sex Advice, Marriage, RecoveringEvangelicalsAnonymous, Religion | 88 Comments